“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

– Gandhi

Winter in Toronto by Adam Morris on


When angry or holding resentment, the way out is forgiveness. This usually comes naturally at some point, but after a confrontation, there can be a good chunk of time where the natural impulse is hold on to that resentment, generating ill will towards your adversary, almost as if it were a punishment for the pain that has been caused.

After such an event, most of the anger and frustration that follows comes from your interpretation. If the interpretation is resentful, remind yourself that you can see things differently. Perhaps someone was careless or made a mistake, and maybe because of some past pain they were even vengeful. It doesn’t matter. The ongoing pain that is felt is your own attempt to keep the memory alive.

Admitting that you are perpetuating your agony is quite difficult to do. Usually after a cooling off period, it is easier to see the event in a better light, but the challenge is to start looking for forgiveness the moment feelings of anger or annoyance arise. Even right in the middle of it. And if you don’t feel like letting go, ask your higher self for help – a genuine question of how to forgive a situation is always answered. The quicker your forgive, the quicker you return to peace.

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