Get over it

People tend to life seriously and make situations overly complicated. Or is that just me? Does drama ever do anything remotely useful?

One approach I find to be effective in combating this is Rule #6, from Ros and Benjamin’s Zander’s Art of Possibility. The story of Rule #6 is:

An executive is in meeting at another company with one of their managers. They are sitting in the manager’s office, when suddenly the door burst open and a man comes in upset and shouting about an urgent problem. The manager says, “Peter, Peter, please remember Rule #6.” Immediately Peter calms down, says thank you and departs.

Soon after, a young woman enters, hysterical, hair flying all over the place, carrying on in frenzy about her situation. He responds, “Mary, please — remember Rule #6!” She says, “Oh, I’m so sorry”, apologizes and leaves the room quietly.

Then it happens a third time. (It always happens a third time.) At this point the visiting executive can’t keep quiet any longer and says, “Sir, I have seen three people come into this room in a state of uncontrollable fury, and then walk out completely calmly. Would you be willing to share this, Rule #6, what it is?”

The manager says, “Oh yes, Rule #6, very simply put is, don’t take yourself so damn seriously.” And so the executive says, “Oh, that’s a wonderful rule. What, may I ask, are the other rules?” And he replies, “There aren’t any.”

So… whatever it is, get over it, and don’t take yourself so god-damn seriously.

Power of giving

During college, I spent the majority of my spare time volunteering: soup kitches, convalescent homes, half-way children homes, homeless shelters, charity drives, park cleanups, battered women shelters, tutorting kids – you name it I helped out.

At some point I realized the true value of volunteering was not in what we did, but in the individual connection made with people. In the mind-set of giving, that is a subtle message that other people matter.

In a world where people are obsessed with pushing others out of the way to grab the most satisfying life, there is an incredible power in putting others ahead of your own achievement… and ironically, the joy of helping others may be what brings you the most satisfying life.

Lifehack.org rejuvenating creativity

Recently, Lifehack.org posted 30 Tips to Rejuvenate Your Creativity submitted by their readers. Here are some of my favorites:

3. Expose yourself. Not after too much vodka. Expose yourself to new art – books, music, paintings – all the time. If you’re a rocker, listen to funk. If you’re a crime writer, read fantasy. If you’re a productivity writer, read something about slacking off.

8. Drink too much coffee sometimes (one of my favorite submissions).

15. Creativity is a muscle. Exercise it daily – if you only need to create once a week, your muscles may have atrophied if you don’t do it just because you don’t have to.

22. Keep a journal. It can get your mind working, and in a month, or a year, when you’ve gained some distance from what you’ve written it can give you new ideas.

28. Trash what you’re working on. Start again.

Intellect and intuition

The world we live in treasures the intellectual mind. From a young age we go to school – a structured environment where we are taught to follow instructions, process information and return expected answers in order to succeed. We are not encouraged to fail, nor are we given the freedom to define our own path.

This is the same in the workplace. We are expected to show up on time and follow the process we need to get the job done.

But the dark secret is that true value, both in our lives and in business, comes from creativity and new ideas. Creativity doesn’t come from intellect but from intuition – a skill few have taken the time to cultivate.

Choosing Possibility

Either you can see possibility in the world, or you can see the threats, problems and dangers. If you’re really talented, you will see possibility where others see a threat. This is called turning a problem into a challenge.

The magic secret is to understand that what you see is your choice. Do you notice yourself feeling defensive or mulling over issues? Then ask yourself:

  • What is the opportunity in this situation?
  • What is the challenge that lies in this problem?
  • How could I transform this into something good?